Life is hard, especially if you’re a woman. In an already patriarchal society, this girl shared what it’s like growing up in a desi society:
as a woman born in desi society you’re always going to be slut shamed. at 13 because you talked to a boy in your class, at 18 because your dupatta wasn’t covering ‘enough’, at 25 because you wanted to marry a man of your choice.
— jh (@shahitukray) November 27, 2019
and at 40, by your husband because you were in a ‘haram’ relationship with him before marriage and therefore are a woman of loose character. doesn’t matter you’ve given him four children, doesn’t matter you’ve spent so many years faithful to him, your efforts unreciprocated.
— jh (@shahitukray) November 27, 2019
And others kept on adding what she had missed:
At 15 for laughing loudly because shareef larkia zor sey nahi hasti.
— Husna Akbar (@HusnaAkbar2) November 27, 2019
‘Sit like a lady:’
At 16 for sitting with your legs open because ache ghar ki larkiyan tange khol ke nai behtthien
— Batool haider (@Haider_b15) November 27, 2019
Chhupao!
At 13 for not covering your “seena” with big dupatta coz you are now supposs to taks chadar on head
— ChikniPanda (@Sapnayyyyyy) November 27, 2019
‘Khud pasand kiya tha, ab bhugto:’
At 28 when you decide to divorce the man you picked bc he was abusive and all you hear is ‘well, it was your choice 🙄’
— qudsia (@qudsiaraja) November 28, 2019
‘Aurtein sirf kitchen mei kaam kerti hueen achi lagteen hain:’
For sitting a certain way, laughing too loud, talking too much, going out, interacting with people in general, and apparently some folks still think working is not lady like as well 💁🏾♀️ https://t.co/fFevorrIYp
— Nebula (@nebula_ik) November 28, 2019
‘Boys will be boys:’
We browns are more concerned with distance and piece of cloth , raising a frustrated group of people . https://t.co/9h6qOe2VMO
— Maida🌞 (@maidanotmadeeha) November 27, 2019
‘HARAM:’
Right now for exposing your midriff. https://t.co/V0a7LPG4eD
— Mr. Morningstar (@alee92nawaz) November 27, 2019
‘Chakkar chalaye huay hain:’
And imagine if you married outside of desi society! Immediate family understanding (sort of). Sometimes outside fam not so much… and outside outside fam not so much. https://t.co/LMpBAPT8Wu
— Ash (@ARSaroy_1) November 27, 2019
‘Jaldi jaldi family complete kerke faarigh ho jao:’
you missed at 30, where she’s forced into bachay paida krne ki machine
— usama stopped writing (@hanbalkhan9) November 27, 2019
‘Allah beta bhi dega jaldi:’
At the age of 1 day because born as a girl in the house. what a shame.
🙁— Moorty Sumit (Morty Smith ) (@sappyknown) November 27, 2019
Aurat hi aurat ki subse bari dushman hai:
And the vessel to relay all these sick comments against a woman is another woman usually…. In the form of a mother, an aunt, a mother in law, a sister in law! No father or brother I know ever confronts a woman about clothing choices!
— Sm4rte (@BrainsPindi) November 27, 2019
And while this may seem exaggerated to some, many people agreed how this a 100% true:
100% true☠️☠️☠️🧝🏻♀️🧝🏻♀️🧝🏻♀️ https://t.co/gO5sm0DwWX
— Sharifullah (@hajibarakzai111) November 28, 2019
Almost all women could relate:
The last point 🔥 https://t.co/r8p5KMcfnW
— Laiba Qureshi🇵🇰 (@Oe_lyba) November 28, 2019
Agreed!
This thread is equally true and painful https://t.co/q7faortiYI
— MAHAM 🐼 (@iMAHAMTARIQ) November 27, 2019
If only it was this easy:
preach https://t.co/mXgJ6ittB5
— idk (@stilltheeenking) November 27, 2019
Even a few men came forward and agreed how the society has been treating women:
Men are trying so hard to prove women wrong and ignoring that fact how unfair they have been to women for ages. Men need to stop throwing society card on women https://t.co/cdGNpGV4VC
— Hassaan Samad (@SamadHassaan) November 27, 2019
Nah mate:
that’s horrible… I thought things have changed at least in some plo
— Sanju Paison (@cooloften) November 28, 2019
Some came forward with ‘nOt aLL wOmEn:’
Happens to some, not to all. We seem to be talking on everyone's behalf which is also not right according to me
— Hassan Talal (@HassanTalal23) November 28, 2019
Some thought it was bullshit:
B.S
— Herkdriver (@Faizanjames1) November 28, 2019
Can you relate? Let us know in the comments below!